Studies have shown that men’s and women’s brains are formed differently. When we are in our mother’s womb, about four months into the pregnancy, baby boys get something baby girls don’t—a full testosterone bath. That testosterone bath inadvertently short circuits the part that connects the two sides of the brain. So, women are literally more capable of quickly processing things, back-and-forth, from one side to the other.
My wife (Hope) loves this because, as she shares at our marriage conferences, this is why women can generally multi-task much better than men. A woman can talk on the phone with a baby on her hip, help kids with homework, keep dinner cooking, plan tomorrow’s meal, and keep laundry going all at once. On the flip side, because men truly have a deficiency there, a grease fire can break out in the middle of watching SportsCenter and we don’t even know it! That testosterone bath severed parts of the nerves connecting the two lobes where logic and emotion are processed.
This also explains why a man can be talking on his cell phone driving, and his wife can tap his shoulder and say, “Baby, you’re going to miss your turn, you’re going to miss your turn.” The husband will snap, tell her he knows where he’s going, but then get back into the conversation and completely miss every exit. Heck, we men probably even miss our own driveway once in a while. Not understanding that, a wife can get so frustrated, not understanding how her husband can get so locked in and have such a hard time moving back and forth between emotion and logic.
Relationship Builder Action Step: Learn to take a step back in the middle of conflict now that you know this and relax! She’s not trying to boss you around. In reality, you’re just brain damaged from birth, and she’s trying to help you!
I thought is was very intriguing ” Brain Damage and Sports Center “, it has given me a better understanding of how the male mind works with a little bit of humor. I just moved here from Pa . Iand have to let you know that Redemption has definitely been the highlight of my move. I dont know where I would be without it. I am still unemployeed since I moved here about a month and a half ago but I am not stressed I have a game plan , now its just a matter of time before it wil be set forth, your bible studies and church services have kept me going and and even me greater faith and a deeper understanding of how God works, you in a few weeks have answered questions I have been searching for most of my life and I just turned 35 the 28th of January. I just want you to know that I appreciate you the gift God had blessed so many with including me. So, thank you and I do pray for you and your family every night as well as my new Redemption Family.
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You know what ..that is so true ,When I first got married that aggravated me so much with my Husband. I learned over time that he can’t help it ..were both designed totally different in the way we handle situations and react to situations. At first it was a problem for both of us because we got on each other nerves but now I see it as a blessing. We were made to be different, think different , act different as men and women. We have what the other person is missiing . That’s what makes a marriage work , by letting each party do their part. I had to realize that I don’t know all the answers, that’s why God made my husband and I one. So when I don’t know, my other side speaks(Husband) and vice versa.
What if its the opposite, the man who can multi-task, and the woman who can’t?
Apparently, the question is in reference to myself and my husband. He has a tendency to get mad at me because I have a one track mind. When he tries to talk while I’m doing something, the majority of the time I have to ask him to repeat himself because I didn’t hear what he said.
How do you fix something that is causing trouble in our marriage, when its as mundane as that?
Very interesting! I had not heard before about how testosterone affects brain development, and since you didn’t cite a source, I did some quick checking. No offense meant. I do a lot of Internet research, so it’s ingrained in me to verify everything. Found some great articles about the subject, too!
This information certainly could help men and women be more understanding of one another, providing, of course, that they do take that step back in the heat of battle.
I wouldn’t be saying, “Baby, you’re going to miss your turn.” I’d be saying, “either pull over and let me drive, or get off the phone.” It’s one thing to put himself in harm’s way, it’s another to put me there.
Thanks for the enlightenment!
Imy husband and i have ben married for 18 yrs with 4 children. it amazes me just how different we are and yet share the same christian values and how we raise our children. whenever we diagree he likes to say im so! glad im not like you. that use to really hurt my feelings and now after the many years of your teaching and attending all of the marriage conferance since 2003, now when he says im glad im not like you , i say i thank God im not like you and dont think like you.
also when im hot hes cold so i decidesd that ill be hot when he is hot even when im cold. I hope i just made sense.. anyway it works every time. and for the other couple thats viseversa in there relationship as long as it works for them, is what matters.
which i will write one day, and tell all of our testimonies since we became members of RWOC in 2002. I’d better close now before I do write a book 
You were no doubt about it sent by God . We Love you all im praying to attend marriage conf this year to (every yr) thats my time with my man. from our children and us We Love you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! the Simuel family
Apostle I am so proud of you and Hope in more ways then i could ever explain in a book
HI Pastor Carpenter. Great blog, and soooo true! I’m not married yet, but i’ll be sure to past this on to my parents and my married friends.
God bless you and Pastor Hope.
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