God can create anything, at any time, all by Himself, and the Bible says that God created Adam in His likeness and in His image. So, essentially Adam had the same capacity IN himself to produce and create a new life that God had in Himself.
But God created Eve from Adam’s rib, because He knew that Adam shouldn’t have all the reproductive qualities and responsibilities; He pulled a part of Adam out, so male and female are completed when they get together. Individually, they are different by His design.
Irony: The reason that men and women fight each other is because we are different. We spend our time desperately trying to make our partner like us, but God didn’t design us that way. Instead, God designed us to be different from one another so together we’d be whole.
Men are supposed to have things women don’t have—women, you aren’t supposed to be taking target practice on him, because he’s so disciplined and structured and you’re so carefree, off-the-cuff, and spontaneous. Ladies, when he tells you he can’t call off work and play with you all day, he is trying to do the responsible thing to provide for you and the family. Men, when she asks you to stay home with her, it isn’t because she doesn’t value your job. Maybe, just maybe, she’s there to help you from being so boring, and you are there to keep her from being broke! So when you’re both together, you’re happy and have money!
Kidding aside…Ladies, the things you say you don’t like in him, the things that aggravate you so badly, those are the qualities that were left in Adam. You are different by design, and it’s amazing that every day, marriages destined for greatness, destined to impact generations, marriages like yours, are divorcing and splitting up over what we should be celebrating! Thank God both of you don’t want to ditch work every day, and thank God both of you aren’t hermits that never do anything or have any fun. The structured person needs spontaneity, and the spontaneous person needs structure to ultimately function with the balance God intended and designed from the beginning.
Relationship Builder Action Step: Don’t get so caught up in trying to change each other that you fail to celebrate the amazing design abilities of God, and the fact that He somehow managed to bring two people together who bring what the other is missing. This is where you recognize that God gave you your partner, not to compete with you, but to complete you. Take an evening this week, and share with your spouse the things you love in him/her that you don’t have in you that you recognize complete you.
I just want to first say thanks to God who is the head of my life and my every thing. Ron I am greatful unto you and love how God is using you in a powerful way and in more than one area. God said you will know my poeple by the fruits that they produce thank God that you are a producer Mr. Carpenter. I know God is in you not just using you I want to thank you just for being who you are. a powerful man of the living God. I will always and forever keep you and your family in my prayers and plead the Blood of Jesus over your life and the safey of your house of God. thank you again Pinkie McCullough I am not a memeber yet. Thinking about it but itsnot up to me it is up to God to lead the way.
I so wished we lived closer so we could go to your church and your married couples retreat. Its definetly something we both need right now. I firmly believe God brought my husband and I together and right now we are under attack so much!!! The Devil is working so hard at tearing us apart. Or he is using us to tare each other apart. And we’re doing a good job at it too. We need to celebrate our differences instead of want to kill each other b/c of them. You are so right pastor!!! Although its just the opposite in my world. I am the workter and he cant keep a job for anything and that is what is killing us. But your blogs always give me something to think about and try to look at some things in different way that could possibly help out. May GOd be w/ you and your family! Thanks for sharing w/ us a word!
I Thank God for using you Ron this is a great lesson and encouraging word wrapped into one. My husband and I know that God has truly brought us together as a team to be used in the Kingdom of God. I love our differences he truly do complete me and I him! It took us a few years of trials and tribulations to get to know that but Thanks to God for the Holy Spirit we are partnes trying to live out the plan God has for our lives. Be Blessed Pastor Ron and your beautiful wife Hope.
To Hope, know that you are not alone. There are many couples that are under attack. Continue to do your part and I know that God honors that. He loves us so much.