Do you know where you are going? Do you have a vision for your life? Do you know that there is a hidden assignment for your life, a secret place? Your life is hidden there, and there is something great that God wants you to do.
But to arrive at the right destiny with the right relationship, you have to bring boundaries into your life. You can’t build that business and sleep until noon. You can’t get out of debt and go to DisneyWorld on your credit card. You can’t go back to school and be undisciplined. If you have a vision, that vision demands boundaries.
You must have people in you life, intimate relationships and friends, that share the same goals and aspirations as you do. Even if their goals are not the exact same, they celebrate the ones you have. They understand them and celebrate the commitment that you have to make and keep them. The right ones won’t try to get you to slight on your commitment.
If you’ve gotten to the place where you realize that you want to save yourself for marriage and believe sex is a sacred act to be shared in a covenant, then why would you date someone whose only goal is to separate you from your clothes?
When you have set that boundary for yourself, why bother to date someone who does not have that same boundary? “Well, they are saved.” I don’t care if they are saved, because in their mind and heart they still do not see the SACRED. You see the light, and they’re stumbling in the darkness. They don’t view the world through your eyes, because they have not seen the same revelations you have. A rift is created in your relationship and an inequity is present. All the pressure of keeping your relationship pure rests on you, and you must fight to keep it pure.
Your true equal celebrates your goal and knows what it’s going to take to achieve it. They need to invest in your goal and not try to keep you from achieving it. You have boundaries you have set to help achieve your aspirations, so why should you enter into relationships with people who only question and push your boundaries, constantly wanting you to violate the boundaries you set?
When you learn who to love and who not to love, your life will begin to move rapidly forward. But when you have unequal relationships, you’re restricted by them.
Relationship Builder Action Step:
Make 2 lists. Put on one list all the people in your life that celebrates your vision and goals, and respects your boundaries. On the 2nd list, write the names of any people who constantly violate your boundaries. Next steps: Well, that’s entirely up to you, right?
i am so convinced that the message was intended for me! i got so blessed by it.thank you so much! may God continue to speak to his children through you!
Im greatful you took the time to write this message. Its to true and something I will apply to my life going forward.
what if you have already married that person that doesn’t share your vision or respect your boundries??
thank you for your wisdom and knowledge,
i get so much from your lessons. your teaching is helping me how to talk with my grandchildren. they have been raised to know who Jesus is. since they have become teen ages they are going astray. i beleive they are trying to find out who they are. i am praying they will choose God’s way, and not the way of the worlds view.
God bless you, and your family.
Morning, I am from South Africa and read your message. If your boyfriend is a christian and claims that nowehere does it state in the Bible that you need to have a piece of paper to be married and you live together with no other people in your life why is it a “sin”. It is just the surname that is different? Please advise us I have run out of answers. Tx
thank you this validates some past decisions. “I would rather my toes hurt today than my heart hurt tomorrow”.
Thanks Apostle
Very interesting article. Keep writing dude !!
Amen! A word in due season for me! Just havng hard tme taking next steps cause most of my list of ppl NOT sharing my goals. visions, boundaries are close famly members-including my adult children. Pray for my wisdom in moving beyond this state of conflict. God bless you & your minsitry contunually..
Amen-
If we be doers of the word- we will be fruitful in every good work- in this case our relationship! I now abide in what has been said regarding relationships- because my time is of value I don’t invest in unfruitful works.
One can never know for sure what a deserted area looks like
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