Unfortunately, human behavior can be pretty predictable. Even in dating relationships so many times I see this pattern: The girl craves attention, the guy craves sex. They know how to get together and cut a deal that’s going to make them both happy, even if for a short period of time. “For a moment, I’ll give you what you need, and you give me what I need.”
Sounds pretty simple, only when they leave, the void in their lives is only bigger than it was before. They’re locked in a cycle.
They’re letting their root weakness get to them. Rather than finding their equal, they find the person who will put a band-aid on their open wound, and help them for “right now.”
Let me say it plain: Some of you never invite your equal into your life. Instead, you keep inviting trouble.
God wants your equal to come to you, but your root wants your trouble to come to you. Those things that happened to you build root systems in your life, and they cause you not only to be defiled, but to also defile everyone around you. Sometimes the root seems to disappear for awhile, but just when you are about to break yourself of the cycle you’ve gotten in, one of your roots drags you back down.
Maybe it was when you were abused, abandoned, addicted or some other traumatic event early in life. These past hurts in relationships become buried and turn into roots that plague futures. It prevents us from calling equals into our life. Our roots keep calling troubled and painful relationships into our life.
Relationship Builder Action Step: Take an honest inventory of your closest relationships. Which ones were called in, led by God, and which might have been called in by a bitter root?
HELLO PASTOR CARPENTER, I DON’T KNOW MUCH OF YOUR BACKGROUND WHEN IT COMES TO YOUR MINISTRY, ALTHOUGH I HAVE READ ON YOUR PAGE ALL THE WONDERFUL THINGS THAT YOU HAVE DONE. I HAVE ALSO WATCHED YOU ON TBN SEVERAL TIMES. YOU HAVE TOUCHED MY HEART JUST AS MANY OTHER MINISTERS HAVE DONE, SUCH AS PASTOR JOHN HAGEE, CHARLES STANLEY, ADRIENNE ROGERS, JOYCE MEYERS AND BILLY GRAHAM. I WOULD LIKE TO ADD YOU TO MY LIST OF TITHES TO GOD. I KNOW IT IS NOT MUCH, BUT, I AM ON MEDICARE AND WHATEVER I HAVE 1/10TH GOES TO THE LORD FIRST. HE IS ALWAYS THERE TO HELP ME NO MATTER WHAT. SO, LET ME END BY SAYING ,THANK YOU FOR BEING A GOD-FEARING MAN, AND FOR BRINGING THE WORD OF GOD TO OUR HEARTS AND FEEDING US THRU YOUR TELEVISED PROGRAM. I PRAY THAT GOD WILL CONTINUE TO BLESS YOUR MINISTRY AND YOU IN YOUR PERSONAL LIFE AS I AM VERY GREATFUL AS I AM SURE MANY OTHERS ARE ALSO.
GOD BLESS YOUALWAYS WITH THE GRACE AND LOVE OF THE LORD,
RESPECTFULLY,
THERESA M. YINGLING
Apostle… this is challenging one. I soooo agree.
That is so true! Great message!
Good Word! Good Word! I should have married young. ha ha!
Awesome post Apostle Ron! So true, we would be much better if we allowed God to heal our wounds and be patient instead of running to what seems to be a quick “fix.” A rule that I use when doing inventory is ,is this relationship bringing me closer to or pushing me farther from God?Are we in agreement with God? If we are unable to be honest about our bad mistakes and change we will repeat the cycle over and over again, what a waste!
I’ve been hearing this message so CLEARLY. I had taken the last 7 years and remained relationship free while I was trying to figure out how to do things differenly; trying to figure out what I was doing wrong. And right when I thought I had it, here I am, back in the same dissatisfied role, looking back and saying, “Yep…this wasn’t what I wanted to do.” The only difference is that this time it took a little longer to get there.Thisis one of the most difficult things I am having to battle.
It is so good to hear your Godly wisdom again, even as I live here in South Korea. I was able to visit my former church “Redemption” this past summer but long for the days when I was there every chance I got. Thanks to Charity for posting this link on her FB page. Thanks to you Ron & Hope for your awesome Ministry and Thanks be to God for all the blessings!
that is a good message ron.
i thank god for being me a new day in life that i have in me i love my church redemption world outreach center.and i love my pastor ron carpenter.jr he a good pastor in the hole alot world.i thank god for him.god blessed
AND I LOVE MY CHURCH FAMILY REDEMPTION WORLD OUTREACH CENTER A HOLE ALOT THEY HAVE BEING SO BLEESED TO ME.please. pray for me. i’m going throw something things. in my life. i see you wednesday night at 6;30 pm thank you.and god bleesed you.
Today’s message was such a blessing,both my husband and I enjoyed it, it was on favor,&Joseph’s coat,and God’s blessing on our lives!It was powerful and so true!!WE serve a mighty God!!Thanks for all your messages!We hear you sundays on TBN at 8:30 am before we go into church!Your teachings on Marriage are so good too!!God bless you&Hope&your family!In Christ,Kiki,Bill&family, Abundant Life Fellowship& Lord’s Gym Roseville, CA!
Brother Ron, thank you for having such a great televison broadcast!we feel the annointing and feel a part of the service!Your prayers bless us too!!Thank you and Hope!You both are precious people!!!God bless you and your church,pray for us too we have a world outreach too and 18 Lord’s Gyms and growing, our Pastor has great vision!!!Have a blessed week and we will tune in next week and be looking for your e-mail!B&K Bird.
How many times can I say “Thank you” and hit “repeat”???
WOW!!! Real talk Apostle Ron! That’s sho nuff soul food right there!
Love the wisdom that God is imparting into my life through you.
have to say youve been a blessing to me through TBN on sunday mornings! keep the fire burning!!
Watched your program this am. The message was on the tree. It seems over the years the christians in the pews (those without some title) have become lazy. Today God spoke to me prior to watching your program.He compared this to the Lord giving us a brand new car, which includes the title. Paid in full. Hands us the key. A full tank of gas.The manuels in the glove box. But, because we are lazy we never learn to us this vehicle. Never have passengers. And just as you spoke it, the church needs Grace and Mercy. Lord shake us and put a desire for true revival in our hearts
Praise God for your annointing Pastor Ron, I feel it in my bones every time I hear your words. You speak the truth every Sunday. The truth will set us free. I have never given in to what the world around me was doing. I was raised by a God fearing Mother. I have never married because I was attracting Mr. Right now not my equal. I will hold on to my Christian beliefs forever. I love my single life.